Some people may answer, without ever listening to this podcast “YES!”  They know what they are doing.  However Narcissism is a very complex thing to understand, and when we attempt to understand from our own mindset, perspective or empathy, we are likely to miss the mark.  Narcissists don’t view the world through the same eyes that most people do, therefore we have to be careful not to project our own world view, or mindset onto people who are narcissistic.

We often project our own empathetic world view onto the narcissist and imagine that he/she looks at the world in the same way.  What we have to realize is that they don’t.  This is why they are a narcissist.  They look at the world through their own lens which is all about them, what they want, and what they need.  They simply don’t have the capacity to consider you, your wants and your needs.

You’ve probably heard that narcissists see others as an extension of themselves.  What does this mean exactly?  Well it means that they expect others to think and believe the way they do, and if others don’t fall in line with the narcissists way of seeing things, they are considered wrong, stupid, uneducated, foolish or crazy.  This is why so many of us try so hard to get the narcissist to see things from our perspective and fail.  In the mind of a narcissist, there is no other perspective.

In this episode of Pandoras Box, Kaleah does a deep dive into the mindset of a narcissist, how narcissism is on a spectrum and why many narcissists you will encounter are relatively “clueless” as to how their actions and behavior affect others.  The more you know, the more you can “let go,” and release yourself from the crazy making mindset of a narcissist.