The Frequency Factor: Are We Creating Our Relationships?
I’ve had a love-hate relationship with the law of attraction over the years. While I’ve always sensed its truth, part of me resisted, wanting to believe that a higher power, like God, would ensure I was protected from harm. Yet, after enduring toxic relationships and financial hardships, I had to face a painful realization: I was attracting these negative experiences into my life.
Accepting that my external reality reflected my inner state was tough. I had to acknowledge that I was making choices from a place of emotional wounds and low self-worth, which, in turn, attracted relationships that mirrored these feelings.
Understanding Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic abuse is a painful reality for many, and I’ve experienced it more than once. It led to PTSD, destroyed self-worth, and a deep sense of victimhood. I often asked, “Why me?” Why did someone so toxic come into my life, hurt me, and move on without any regard for the damage they caused?
Initially, the idea that I somehow created this experience was unthinkable. But over time, I recognized that while I didn’t consciously choose to be hurt, I was attracting relationships from a place of emotional wounding and low frequency. Each toxic relationship was a reflection of where I was vibrating emotionally.
The Power of Frequency
I now understand that we attract people into our lives based on the frequency we’re operating at. When I chose from a place of low self-worth, I attracted people who reflected that. When I made choices from my wounded self, I attracted partners who were a vibrational match to those wounds.
Raising my frequency has become essential in attracting better relationships, not just romantic ones but also friendships and professional opportunities. God, in this context, is not a figure who saves us from harm but a consciousness that mirrors our internal state. The world reflects our inner beliefs and emotions.
From Victim to Creator
To break the cycle of attracting toxic relationships, I had to shift my identity. I was no longer a victim of narcissistic abuse but a co-creator of my reality. As long as I identified as a victim, I remained in a low-frequency state, continuously attracting people who would reinforce that identity.
The key to change is inner reflection and a commitment to raising our vibration. This involves setting boundaries, avoiding toxic relationships, and focusing on healing emotional wounds. I’ve come to realize that forgiveness, while difficult, is crucial. Forgiving those who hurt us releases the emotional charge that keeps us stuck in a low-frequency state.
Identity Shifting and Conscious Creation
One powerful method to raise our frequency is identity shifting. Instead of identifying with being a victim, we can choose to see ourselves as successful individuals with healthy relationships. By reprogramming our subconscious minds and imagining ourselves as the people we want to be, we can shift our frequency and attract better circumstances.
This journey requires constant self-reflection, emotional healing, and reprogramming. It’s about embracing the highest version of ourselves and letting go of old patterns that no longer serve us.
Taking Responsibility for Our Reality
The realization that we create our own reality can be challenging, but it is also liberating. By acknowledging our part in attracting negative experiences, we take back control. We can raise our frequency and consciously manifest healthier relationships, greater success, and deeper fulfillment.
If you’re struggling with toxic relationship patterns or want to work on raising your frequency, I offer resources and support through my websites narcissismfree.com and inner-transformations.com.
