After spending years supporting victims of narcissistic abuse and writing about narcissism I have been feeling a transformation within myself. I feel a hesitancy to label people. Although putting the label of narcissist on those difficult people in our lives helps us to understand the craziness that is happening in our lives, it doesn’t necessarily […]
I work with many people who feel very deceived in their relationships with a partner who lies to them and misleads them on a regular basis. It is easy to feel disempowered by the lack of honesty in the relationship. The best course of action to reclaim your personal power is to be honest with […]
During a radio show I had the pleasure of interviewing Psychologist Ernie Vecchio who told the story of the Narcissus Myth. Later in the interview Ernie also shared the story of The Swan and The Scorpion. Many of us have heard this story or some version of it but it goes something like this. There was […]
He comes like a thief in the night, strips away my barriers, penetrates my walls, pulls me into a dream where I no longer know what is real and what is fantasy. He is the demon lover, who calls to the deepest part of my soul asking me to surrender all that I am. I […]
Since I have become aware of narcissism, I have noticed there are so many extremely talented, gifted people out there who seem to me to be highly narcissistic. I observed one man in particular who was giving a presentation at an event I attended. The minute he walked in the door my eyes were drawn to […]
I want to talk about the subject of feeling invisible which was not only an issue with me personally but is an issue with most people in this situation. Since a narcissist views those in their lives as extensions of themselves rather than separate, unique individuals, we are often left feeling unseen and unheard. This […]
I had a woman write me recently asking me about the possible past life connection between her ex narcissistic mate and herself. This is a question I have been confronted with more and more lately. Especially since I deal in the spiritual recovery from narcissistic abuse. So I felt it was time to really address […]
If you have gone through narcissistic abuse you probably have experienced some of the worst pain you’ve ever had in your life. It is a time of great confusion and complex conflicting emotions. Although there may be a part of you that knows being away from the narcissist in your life is the best thing, […]
A narcissist is a wolf in sheep’s clothing. He or she can appear to be the nicest person in the world and do things for you that would seem to say “I really care about you” but then you begin to feel that your energy is being drained, you are feeling confused, you are doubting yourself and feeling very frustrated.
Learning that your partner is a narcissist can bring a great deal of relief as you realize the source of the crazy making behavior you have been living with. However enlightening this information may be it doesn’t seem to have the power to stop the incessant dwelling on thoughts of the narcissist and how that […]