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One of the most important lessons we must learn in life, especially if we are hurt and unsatisfied in our intimate relationships is to love ourselves. To love ourselves we must respect and value ourselves, even when others are unable to. In the end, this is the Greatest Love of All.
When you’ve experienced this thing called Narcissistic Abuse, it is normal, and healthy, to want to talk about narcissistic abuse; what you’ve gone through and how that narcissistic person isn’t at all, who you believed them to be.
Are you recovering from narcissistic abuse and want to rise up to a much higher frequency where there is love, nurturing, validation and true freedom? We don’t often see how we get pulled into the lower level narcissistic frequencies through constant devaluing and invalidation of our feelings and reality.
In this episode of Pandoras Box Radio, Kaleah talks about the energetic dance with the narcissist and how to stop dancing, unplug and return to yourself and your connection with divine love.
A continuation of Kaleah’s Series on “Healing the Scapegoat Wound,” Kaleah does a deep dive into understanding one’s role as a Scapegoat and what needs to happen to discontinue playing this part in our lives.
My marriage was quickly unraveling, and I couldn’t breathe. My husband, my love, my friend of 18 years was apparently not who he seemed to be. We had laughed together, we had given each other romantic Valentine’s cards, we were good life partners. Was I living in a dream? Could this really be happening? Was I married to a compulsive liar and a con man?
The Scapegoat Wound is incurred in those who are typically blamed and shamed throughout their lives simply by being who they are. They end up believing they are somehow a bad seed and deserve to be mistreated. This is a wound that must be healed in order to change the pattern from the inside out.
If you have ever been with an addict when they need their next hit or are in withdrawal you can almost feel their panic, anxiety, and sense of urgency. Depending on their level of dependency and what their addiction is, certain addicts would do almost anything to find their next fix. Once they take that drink or drug, the addict feels a sense of calm and relief and temporarily all is good in their world; however, this calm and peaceful state doesn’t last too long and before they know it, they are desperate for that next high when the substance leaves their system.
The Scapegoat is typically the person who is the negative focus for a person or systems repressed emotions. Scapegoats are loaded up with the burdens of society, or a community and sent out into the wild alone to fend for themselves.
The discard phase is so challenging for survivors. Due to cognitive dissonance, created by the love bombing and the good days contrasted with the evil hurtful side of your ex-partner, you are left so confused, hurt, and in so much pain.
Abandonment is one of the Universal Fears shared by every living being. We often have this feeling like we were dropped off on this strange planet and left here. We often feel disconnected and alone, craving that connection to something beyond our reach. We may find some comfort and connection in our human relationships, but even in these relationships we often feel abandoned, left behind, unwanted and unloved. Healing the Abandonment Wound can be difficult, but it is a worthwhile journey to take.