The Journey of the Scapegoat

The Journey of the Scapegoat

The Scapegoat is typically the person who is the negative focus for a person or systems repressed emotions. Scapegoats are loaded up with the burdens of society, or a community and sent out into the wild alone to fend for themselves.

Healing the Abandonment Wound

Healing the Abandonment Wound

Abandonment is one of the Universal Fears shared by every living being.  We often have this feeling like we were dropped off on this strange planet and left here.  We often feel disconnected and alone, craving that connection to something beyond our reach.  We may find some comfort and connection in our human relationships, but even in these relationships we often feel abandoned, left behind, unwanted and unloved.  Healing the Abandonment Wound can be difficult, but it is a worthwhile journey to take.

Does a Narcissist Have a Multiple Personality?

Does a Narcissist Have a Multiple Personality?

If you have ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, you might have wondered Does a Narcissist Have a multiple personality? Dissociative identity disorder (DID), previously referred to as multiple personality disorder, is a dissociative disorder involving a disturbance of identity in which two or more separate and distinct personality states (or identities) control […]

Is it Love? Or Longing?

Is it Love?  Or Longing?

In both my personal work and my work with others, I have discovered something really interesting about why people who are codependent or coming out of relationships with narcissists tend to be obsessive or hyper-focused on the person they are attempting to break away from. Although obsessive thinking can be a symptom of both codependency […]

Boundaries, Borders and Walls

Boundaries, Borders and Walls

How do you set healthy boundaries? And what is the difference between boundaries, borders and walls?  In this episode of Pandoras Box, Kaleah does a deep dive into the topic of boundaries in our relationships and how they are important in sustaining healthy relationships with others.

What is Codependency and How to Heal It

What is Codependency and How to Heal It

Codependency is common among those who come from families where there is alcoholism or other addictions, abuse, neglect, mental illness or personality disorders.  It has become such a buzz word in our society and codependency is often very misunderstood.  In this article, I would like to talk about what is codependency and how to heal it.

Understanding Codependency

Understanding Codependency

Understanding codependency is the first part of recognizing if you have co-dependent traits or if codependency is an issue in your relationship. Codependency has been a buzz word for decades. It is a term used in the twelve step recovery programs to describe the co-addict, or person who takes care of the addict. But Codependency […]

Borderline Personality Disorder in Woman

Borderline Personality Disorder in Woman

Just as narcissistic personality disorder is an epidemic among men, so is borderline personality disorder in Women. Where those diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are roughly 80% men, the opposite is true for borderline personality disorder, which tends to show up more in women. I am working with so many clients who have either borderline wives or mothers. Sometimes both. Most people involved with a borderline woman find her to be near impossible to deal with.

Changing Toxic Relationship Patterns

Changing Toxic Relationship Patterns

Many of the people I work with who are coming out of toxic relationships, with narcissistic partners, are often more interested in learning why they keep attracting these types of relationships than anything else.  If you are interested in having a healthy relationship, changing your toxic relationship patterns is really where you need to focus […]