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When we examine the Victim Archetype, we look deep into our shadow to find the part of ourselves that looks at life through the lens of the victim. We tend to feel victimized by our relationships and circumstances in our lives. We unconsciously attract victimizers into our lives who adequately trigger us. In this episode […]
In January of 2013 I went to Costa Rica and wrote my book “Healing Narcissistic Abuse and Finding the True Self.” It has been available as an E book but not in print. By popular demand I have now launched this book in print. It is a pretty large book at 382 pages. Healing Narcissistic […]
One thing I find in my work is that some readers get the bright idea of subscribing the narcissist in their lives to my newsletter. This is a very bad idea and let me tell you why. First of all, in order to subscribe the narcissist in your life to any “opt-in” newsletter having to […]
On my path to working with others in recovery from narcissistic abuse and healing the fragmented soul I have come up against the word “healer” quite a lot. Being a healer is something you are, not something you go to school to learn how to be. Our greatest healing abilities come from within us and […]
Recently, on the advice of a mentor, I revisited Eckhart Tolle’s book “A New Earth”. Often when we have had years of growth between the last time we have read a profound book like this one, it is like reading it for the first time, because there is so much insight we might not have […]
Can we still be friends is a common question among people who have been romantically involved with a narcissist. The first question you must ask yourself is “what qualities am I looking for in my friendships?” The more we learn to love ourselves the more discerning we become of the type of people we allow […]
Many of us who end up getting involved with narcissists are conditioned to deny our own needs and focus on the wants, needs and desires of the other. We learn, early on, that our needs are not important and should we voice a need, we are shamed for having it. We are often called selfish […]
If you find that you continue to get involved in relationships where there is constant drama and chaos, there may be an inner aspect of you that is addicted to the drama. Why do you continue to return to unhealthy and toxic relationships and environments? Why do you find it so difficult to break away? […]
After many years focusing on narcissism and abuse I find myself transitioning into the phase of “what comes next.” For me the next step is to take the time to really focus on the book I’ve been working on that addresses the transformational journey inspired when we look deeply into the mirror of narcissism. I […]
In working with people to cut those psychic energetic cords between themselves and the narcissist or energy vampire in their lives I have found that in some cases those cords just don’t want to be severed. I’ve had clients call me and tell me “He just won’t let me go!” But what I have found […]