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The Scapegoat Wound is incurred in those who are typically blamed and shamed throughout their lives simply by being who they are. They end up believing they are somehow a bad seed and deserve to be mistreated. This is a wound that must be healed in order to change the pattern from the inside out.
If you have ever been with an addict when they need their next hit or are in withdrawal you can almost feel their panic, anxiety, and sense of urgency. Depending on their level of dependency and what their addiction is, certain addicts would do almost anything to find their next fix. Once they take that drink or drug, the addict feels a sense of calm and relief and temporarily all is good in their world; however, this calm and peaceful state doesn’t last too long and before they know it, they are desperate for that next high when the substance leaves their system.
The Scapegoat is typically the person who is the negative focus for a person or systems repressed emotions. Scapegoats are loaded up with the burdens of society, or a community and sent out into the wild alone to fend for themselves.
The discard phase is so challenging for survivors. Due to cognitive dissonance, created by the love bombing and the good days contrasted with the evil hurtful side of your ex-partner, you are left so confused, hurt, and in so much pain.
Abandonment is one of the Universal Fears shared by every living being. We often have this feeling like we were dropped off on this strange planet and left here. We often feel disconnected and alone, craving that connection to something beyond our reach. We may find some comfort and connection in our human relationships, but even in these relationships we often feel abandoned, left behind, unwanted and unloved. Healing the Abandonment Wound can be difficult, but it is a worthwhile journey to take.
If you have ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, you might have wondered Does a Narcissist Have a multiple personality? Dissociative identity disorder (DID), previously referred to as multiple personality disorder, is a dissociative disorder involving a disturbance of identity in which two or more separate and distinct personality states (or identities) control […]
We have never really learned the tools of tolerating our pain, let alone embracing it as a pathway to our healing. In this episode of Pandoras Box Radio Kaleah talks about how our deepest pain leads to our greatest healing.
In both my personal work and my work with others, I have discovered something really interesting about why people who are codependent or coming out of relationships with narcissists tend to be obsessive or hyper-focused on the person they are attempting to break away from. Although obsessive thinking can be a symptom of both codependency […]
How do you set healthy boundaries? And what is the difference between boundaries, borders and walls? In this episode of Pandoras Box, Kaleah does a deep dive into the topic of boundaries in our relationships and how they are important in sustaining healthy relationships with others.
Codependency is common among those who come from families where there is alcoholism or other addictions, abuse, neglect, mental illness or personality disorders. It has become such a buzz word in our society and codependency is often very misunderstood. In this article, I would like to talk about what is codependency and how to heal it.