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I now understand that we attract people into our lives based on the frequency we’re operating at. When I chose from a place of low self-worth, I attracted people who reflected that. When I made choices from my wounded self, I attracted partners who were a vibrational match to those wounds.
In today’s fast-paced world, many struggle to maintain personal integrity in the realm of sexuality. With cultural shifts over the decades, particularly following the sexual revolution of the 1960s, sexual boundaries have become blurred for many, leading to internal conflict, shame, and unhealthy relationship patterns. “Holding Yourself Sacred” is a call to rediscover personal empowerment and set conscious boundaries when it comes to intimacy.
As we grow older, many of us worry that the window for finding true love is closing. We may feel we’ve wasted our best years in toxic relationships or with narcissistic partners. Looking in the mirror, we might not recognize the youthful face that once felt so attractive. But instead of the end of the road, this could be a new beginning.
For those accustomed to a steady diet of online content, the idea of being without the internet can be daunting. The fear of missing out on the latest news or trends can make it hard to disconnect. However, as one experiences the peace that comes with unplugging, the need for constant stimulation diminishes. The once-enticing allure of YouTube videos or social media fades, replaced by a deeper connection with oneself and the natural world.
In the classic hero’s journey, the hero must face the dragon to reach the treasure. However, in this modern take, the hero tames the dragon with love and kindness. By feeding the dragon positive qualities such as empathy, understanding, and acceptance, the dragon becomes an ally. This shift from combat to compassion transforms the inner landscape, granting access to the gold within.
Recovering from a narcissistic relationship often means confronting an addiction to the person and addressing deep-rooted self-worth issues. Narcissists seek validation through others, leaving their partners feeling incomplete when the relationship ends. This dynamic can mirror early life experiences, where we craved love from unavailable parents, creating a pattern of seeking love from those who cannot provide it.
The first step in recovery is recognizing the narcissist addiction at play. Addictions, whether to substances, behaviors, or people, distract us from uncomfortable realities and inner feelings of abandonment, loneliness, emptiness, and inadequacy. When a relationship ends, the longing for connection often drives us to seek external validation, but this is a temporary fix for deep-seated issues of self-worth.
When I conduct Soul Recovery work, akin to soul retrieval, I work with cutting Soul Ties and Contracts. This is a spiritual, energetic process. Quantum physics shows that every living thing has an energetic blueprint; we are all energy beings inhabiting human bodies. Regardless of spiritual beliefs, we cannot deny our energetic nature.
Covert Narcissists are the ones you do not see right away. It usually takes going deeper into a relationship with one to become aware of the narcissism. It sneaks up on you. This is different from overt narcissism, which is much easier to see.
One thing that is completely off limits to narcissistic people is to talk about how you feel about their bad behavior. This is sure to bring about the wrath of the narcissist, due to their core shame. If you are a product of a narcissistic family, relationships or society in general, you will have learned to sweep feelings of pain, disappointment, anger and hurt under the rug because these things are not safe to talk about.