We live in a world filled with comparison and the result of our comparing ourselves to those we perceive as being somehow better than we are, we end up feeling we are somehow not enough.
Comparison is the Cause of all Unhappiness
Category Archives: Pandoras Box Radio
The Path Back to Self
Once we do leave a narcissistic relationship we have to begin changing our focus from the narcissistic person and his or her life, back to ourselves. For codependent people, this can be very difficult because codependents typically focus on the needs of others over their own needs.
Techniques Narcissists Use to Manipulate and Control
There are a lot of things you might have learned about methods the Narcissist will use to manipulate and control but there are also some things narcissists do that you may not be aware of. I’ve been in this field for over 20 years and am always learning. It is good to keep our eyes open, so that we can see red flags early.
Borderline Personality Disorder and the All Good, All Bad Mother
What makes the borderline disorder particularly challenging is the splitting from all good to all bad. This is why the borderline loves you one minute and hates you the next.
Maybe I’m Not So Codependent
I have recently decided to work the twelve step program for Codependency. The deeper I go into the program I find myself doing my best to be honest, to the point where I may be actually looking for things in myself that are no longer there. I find myself saying “maybe I’m not so codependent.”
In All Honesty (Getting Honest About Our Need for Recovery)
Often times when we are coming out of toxic or abusive relationship dynamics, we need to take a good, hard, honest look at ourselves. We need to be willing to look deeply at our own character defects and the things we ourselves are doing that are contributing to the negative and painful relationship patterns we […]
Working the Twelve Steps for Recovery from Codependency
Although I have had amazing recovery from codependency in my life, I have to agree that we are recovered but never cured. Which means that recovery is a lifelong commitment and if we let go of this commitment or consider ourselves cured, we are vulnerable for relapse. We can go back to codependent behaviors or forget the importance of creating a healthy environment in which to thrive.
How To Be a Warrior
A true warrior learns how to access their inner strength, their inner determination and also accesses something greater than themselves
The Twin Flame Myth
In the Twin Flame Myth, we are told that it is a difficult relationship because we provide a mirror for each other to see what within ourselves needs to be healed. So we trigger each other and the relationship itself is painful. But if you go deeper into the Twin Flame Myth, you are triggered so that you grow and expand and have a deeper love as a result.
The Curse of Codependency
In recovery from narcissistic abuse or any other kind of toxic relationship, many of you listening have come to the conclusion that you are codependent. But sometimes it can be difficult to understand exactly what it means to be codependent.