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The Scapegoat Wound is incurred in those who are typically blamed and shamed throughout their lives simply by being who they are. They end up believing they are somehow a bad seed and deserve to be mistreated. This is a wound that must be healed in order to change the pattern from the inside out.
The Scapegoat is typically the person who is the negative focus for a person or systems repressed emotions. Scapegoats are loaded up with the burdens of society, or a community and sent out into the wild alone to fend for themselves.
Abandonment is one of the Universal Fears shared by every living being. We often have this feeling like we were dropped off on this strange planet and left here. We often feel disconnected and alone, craving that connection to something beyond our reach. We may find some comfort and connection in our human relationships, but even in these relationships we often feel abandoned, left behind, unwanted and unloved. Healing the Abandonment Wound can be difficult, but it is a worthwhile journey to take.
If you have ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, you might have wondered Does a Narcissist Have a multiple personality? Dissociative identity disorder (DID), previously referred to as multiple personality disorder, is a dissociative disorder involving a disturbance of identity in which two or more separate and distinct personality states (or identities) control […]
We have never really learned the tools of tolerating our pain, let alone embracing it as a pathway to our healing. In this episode of Pandoras Box Radio Kaleah talks about how our deepest pain leads to our greatest healing.
In both my personal work and my work with others, I have discovered something really interesting about why people who are codependent or coming out of relationships with narcissists tend to be obsessive or hyper-focused on the person they are attempting to break away from. Although obsessive thinking can be a symptom of both codependency […]
n relationships “splitting” or black and white, all or nothing thinking is what causes us to toss the baby out with the bathwater. We may not recognize that bad behavior doesn’t make the person himself bad. Everybody engages in behavior they might not be proud of. People do things or say things when they are upset or dis-regulated that they wish they hadn’t done.
Understanding codependency is the first part of recognizing if you have co-dependent traits or if codependency is an issue in your relationship. Codependency has been a buzz word for decades. It is a term used in the twelve step recovery programs to describe the co-addict, or person who takes care of the addict. But Codependency […]
Just as narcissistic personality disorder is an epidemic among men, so is borderline personality disorder in Women. Where those diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are roughly 80% men, the opposite is true for borderline personality disorder, which tends to show up more in women. I am working with so many clients who have either borderline wives or mothers. Sometimes both. Most people involved with a borderline woman find her to be near impossible to deal with.
Many of the people I work with who are coming out of toxic relationships, with narcissistic partners, are often more interested in learning why they keep attracting these types of relationships than anything else. If you are interested in having a healthy relationship, changing your toxic relationship patterns is really where you need to focus […]