Abandonment is one of the Universal Fears shared by every living being. We often have this feeling like we were dropped off on this strange planet and left here. We often feel disconnected and alone, craving that connection to something beyond our reach. We may find some comfort and connection in our human relationships, but even in these relationships we often feel abandoned, left behind, unwanted and unloved. Healing the Abandonment Wound can be difficult, but it is a worthwhile journey to take.
In both my personal work and my work with others, I have discovered something really interesting about why people who are codependent or coming out of relationships with narcissists tend to be obsessive or hyper-focused on the person they are attempting to break away from. Although obsessive thinking can be a symptom of both codependency […]
n relationships “splitting” or black and white, all or nothing thinking is what causes us to toss the baby out with the bathwater. We may not recognize that bad behavior doesn’t make the person himself bad. Everybody engages in behavior they might not be proud of. People do things or say things when they are upset or dis-regulated that they wish they hadn’t done.
Just as narcissistic personality disorder is an epidemic among men, so is borderline personality disorder in Women. Where those diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are roughly 80% men, the opposite is true for borderline personality disorder, which tends to show up more in women. I am working with so many clients who have either borderline wives or mothers. Sometimes both. Most people involved with a borderline woman find her to be near impossible to deal with.
Most people coming out of a Narcissistically Abusive situation are suffering from Trauma. They have PTSD of the complex variety. One of the symptoms of PTSD is the spinning of stories. Telling one’s story over and over again can initially help with processing the trauma. But there comes a point where it actually has the reverse effect. It keeps one stuck in the trauma. Healing your Narcissistic Abuse Story is an important part of recovery.
Anxiety and panic are very common PTSD symptoms that happen as a result of a traumatic relationship. In this video I talk about 5 ways to stop anxiety and panic.
In my work in the field of narcissistic abuse I have noticed the link between toxic relationships and autoimmune disorders. It is a link well worth exploring, especially if you are suffering from an autoimmune disorder. The more I research healing on both an emotional and physical level, the more I see the connection between the two. Although I am a big believer that diet is important and the healthier our diet, the healthier our body, there is also an emotional component to consider.
Are you experiencing lack of support recovering from narcissistic abuse? As a therapist for people recovering from narcissistic abuse, one common complaint is the lack of support people are feeling in their recovery process. If you had lost a loved one to death, people would be there helping you. Even if you were going through […]
Would you like to know the 5 ways the narcissist uses your fears to hook you? The more we get to know ourselves; know our deepest fears and insecurities and work to bring healing to these parts of ourselves, the less we will be able to be manipulated by others. This includes the narcissists of the world.
Have You Been Brainwashed by a Narcissist? Have you been brainwashed? If you have been in a relationship with a narcissist or are coming out of one, the likelihood that you have been brainwashed by a narcissist is high. Brainwashing is something that happens in cults. It is a conditioning of the mind to […]
