After I broke up with my narcissistic boyfriend, before I knew what narcissism was. I was leafing through the books in the self-help and psychology section of Barnes and Nobles searching for the answers to my seemingly hopeless problem. I was obsessed with the man whom I had chosen to leave. I chose to leave him because I knew something was terribly wrong and I felt if I left him whatever was wrong would soon identify itself.
Category Archives: Spiritual Growth
Why Focusing On the Narcissist Inhibits Recovery
Have you ever heard the saying “what you focus on is what you create?” According to Quantum Physics and the Law of Attraction, as talked about in the films “The Secret” and “What the Bleep Do We Know” our minds have the power to create our reality. This means where we focus our attention and […]
Are You An Inverted Narcissist?
Inverted Narcissist is a term, coined by Sam Vaknin which suggests a type of “dependent disorder” that is the compliment of a narcissistic personality. It is the compliment because someone who is considered an inverted narcissist depends upon a narcissistic personality for their affirmation of their worth, which is ironic since a narcissistic personality is […]
The Narcissist Within
One thing we have learned about narcissism is it is about living in the lie rather than in truth. The more our souls cry out for truth, the more we see through the illusion and realize where we are living in the lie. It was when I left my second narcissistic relationship that I met […]
What Does It Mean To Be Truly Narcissism Free?
After spending years supporting victims of narcissistic abuse and writing about narcissism I have been feeling a transformation within myself. I feel a hesitancy to label people. Although putting the label of narcissist on those difficult people in our lives helps us to understand the craziness that is happening in our lives, it doesn’t necessarily […]
The Qwest to Know Thyself
I work with many people who feel very deceived in their relationships with a partner who lies to them and misleads them on a regular basis. It is easy to feel disempowered by the lack of honesty in the relationship. The best course of action to reclaim your personal power is to be honest with […]
The Demon Lover in the Role of Spiritual Transformation
He comes like a thief in the night, strips away my barriers, penetrates my walls, pulls me into a dream where I no longer know what is real and what is fantasy. He is the demon lover, who calls to the deepest part of my soul asking me to surrender all that I am. I […]
Narcissism and the Ego
Since I have become aware of narcissism, I have noticed there are so many extremely talented, gifted people out there who seem to me to be highly narcissistic. I observed one man in particular who was giving a presentation at an event I attended. The minute he walked in the door my eyes were drawn to […]
The Past Life Connection
I had a woman write me recently asking me about the possible past life connection between her ex narcissistic mate and herself. This is a question I have been confronted with more and more lately. Especially since I deal in the spiritual recovery from narcissistic abuse. So I felt it was time to really address […]