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I have recently decided to work the twelve step program for Codependency. The deeper I go into the program I find myself doing my best to be honest, to the point where I may be actually looking for things in myself that are no longer there. I find myself saying “maybe I’m not so codependent.”
Often times when we are coming out of toxic or abusive relationship dynamics, we need to take a good, hard, honest look at ourselves. We need to be willing to look deeply at our own character defects and the things we ourselves are doing that are contributing to the negative and painful relationship patterns we […]
Although I have had amazing recovery from codependency in my life, I have to agree that we are recovered but never cured. Which means that recovery is a lifelong commitment and if we let go of this commitment or consider ourselves cured, we are vulnerable for relapse. We can go back to codependent behaviors or forget the importance of creating a healthy environment in which to thrive.
A true warrior learns how to access their inner strength, their inner determination and also accesses something greater than themselves
In the Twin Flame Myth, we are told that it is a difficult relationship because we provide a mirror for each other to see what within ourselves needs to be healed. So we trigger each other and the relationship itself is painful. But if you go deeper into the Twin Flame Myth, you are triggered so that you grow and expand and have a deeper love as a result.
One of the biggest concerns people have when they come to me for help and support is a recognition that they have a destructive relationship pattern. They may have a pattern of being with narcissistic and/or addicts and when they finally extract themselves from one bad relationship, they find themselves getting involved in another. Sometimes […]
Cassandra is the mythological story of a beautiful princess who was sought after by many. The God Apollo in his pursuit of her gave her the gift of prophecy; the ability to see the future. When she refused his advances, his rage drove him to curse her with not being believed. And so she foretold the future but nobody believed her.
Spiritual bypass is when someone uses spiritual language or ideals which result in invalidating someone’s reality. It is when spiritual principals are used to avoid dealing with reality. And spiritual bypass is used by both the abused and those who the abused come in contact with.
If you have ever been involved with a narcissist you quickly learn there is no win/win and you might ask the question “does the narcissist always win?” With a narcissist, it needs to be win/lose and you need to be the one who loses. But perhaps we are really playing very different games, or not […]
Often the last thing we want to do is pray for those who have harmed you or done you wrong. Instead you might be more inclined to curse them and speak ill of them.