We all have a story about what happened with the narcissist in our life and the damage and destruction that was done. Or we have some other kind of story that keeps us stuck in rumination, obsession and victimhood.

Although it is important to tell the story of what happened in our lives to a caring, compassionate listener, we also want to be careful that we are not living in our stories and making our stories our identities.

When we continue to tell the same story over and over, which is really common for people with PTSD after narcissistic abuse, we tend to get stuck in our stories and don’t have the progress we want.  This is why it is important to work with your story and find another version of it that is much more empowering.

I don’t in any way want to invalidate anybody’s experience but after decades of working with people who have been in narcissistically abusive relationships, I have seen a pattern that we need to work on in order to move out of the cycle of rumination.  So this isn’t about shaming anyone for their stories, but gently guiding them to shift their mindset so they can begin to feel more empowered and hopeful about the future.

There is life after narcissistic abuse.  We do heal and move on.  Even if it takes some time.

Listen to this podcast on Pandoras Box Radio Podcast for a deep dive into how you can move on more quickly after narcissistic abuse.

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