Our perspective is our story. It is how we view the world or a certain person or circumstance. It is the lens in which we view a situation. It is the spin we put on a story. It is what we believe to be true. And yet, in the end, it is only perspective. Healing through Higher Perspective involves being able to view your circumstances or the people in your life from another lens.
Our perspective can either make or break us. We can view every person or circumstance in life either through the lens of love or the lens of fear. When we are in fear or our core wounds are activated, we see the world through our pain. We create stories that support our pain, and unfortunately keep that pain alive.
When you are trying to get out of pain, it is important to first be willing to feel what is coming up and honor that this pain is present. Secondly it is important to ask ourselves what our story is and what perspective or lens we are viewing the painful circumstances from.
One thing I have learned on my journey is that everybody has their own perspective and each person puts their own spin on things. We can get caught up in who is right and who is wrong, and we can try and justify our stories and perspectives by telling other people and look for validation that we are right.
There was a question I learned decades ago. “Would you rather be right, or would you rather be happy?” We often spend so much time fighting to be right and make the other person wrong. And maybe, at times, this is needed in order to find your inner right, to find the guidance within that leads you to what is right for you, and what is wrong for you. But when we focus on needing to be right and make the other wrong, we get stuck in blame, which is a fear-based energy.
It is okay to acknowledge when something really hurts you. And it is okay for us to say “what he or she did was not okay with me and it didn’t feel good to me.” The key word here is “ME,” Because the focus always has to come back to ourselves and what is going on within us.
Lashing out at others when we are in pain doesn’t help us to heal our pain. But acknowledging that we are in pain, and finding the strength and the courage to be present with ourselves in our pain, will help to heal it.
We all want to blame others. We all want to lash out from time to time. We are only human. But those who are on a personal and spiritual growth path, need to be open to seeing life from a higher perspective, one that is based on love; especially self-love, rather than fear.
The higher perspective considers that everything that happens in life has a purpose, whether or not we understand that purpose. There is an order to the Universe, and we can look for the gift in every situation, even when it is difficult to do so.
I help people through some of the most dark and painful passages in life, usually inspired by some kind of narcissistic abuse or family dynamic that leaves one feeling powerless. It can be difficult to look for the gift in these abusive and disempowering situations, but in the end our greatest healing comes in our ability to find the gift. Because when we find the gift we can see how the painful event or circumstance caused us to have to dig deep into our own psyche to develop greater self-understanding. This greater self-understanding ultimately leads to our empowerment. Many of us learn that we can trust our intuition. Many of us learn how to stand up for ourselves. Many of us learn how to stop abandoning ourselves. Many of us learn what our core wounds are and set out to heal them. Many change their relationship dynamics in order to have more loving and empowering relationships. Many learn how to say no to people who treat them badly.
These are the gifts we receive in the darkest times. We step into a truer version of ourselves, one who is stronger and more empowered. It often takes a really disempowering situation to find our greatest empowerment.
Once we have gone through really difficult and challenging circumstances, and find the gift in the darkness, we learn that there is always a gift. We can begin to look for the opportunity for growth, rather than default to old victim roles that are self-defeating and disempowering. Healing through Higher Perspective allows us to see through a more empowering lens. As a result we are happier, healthier and enjoy our lives much more.
