Will you attract another Narcissist after you have recovered?
Dating Again after Narcissistic Abuse Series #4
A common question many people have after coming out of a relationship with a narcissist is “will I attract another narcissist after I have recovered from narcissistic abuse?” Is it true after all the inner work you put into your healing and recovery that you will no longer be attracted to a narcissist?
According to John Gray, the author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, women are commonly attracted to men who are dangerous for them. Men who are married, emotionally unavailable or abusive may trigger strong sexual attraction. Gray also said we really don’t know why this is.
If we have a pattern of dating or getting involved with men who are narcissistic, abusive or unavailable, we need to date “smarter.” We need to understand ourselves and what draws us in. We may even need to question our attractions. We need to pay more attention to men who are interested in us, but who we don’t feel a strong attraction to. This goes against our nature of following our attractions.
When you re-enter the dating world, narcissists are still out there seeking new supply. They are still charming, good looking, charismatic and attentive. They may still make you feel like you are the only woman in the world. So what will stop you from being attracted to them? How can you avoid attracting the narcissist?
The key is dating smart. Paying attention. Knowing what signs to look for. It is important to back away and get out of a budding new relationship when you see the red flags.
I expand on the question “will you attract another narcissist after you recover from narcissistic abuse” in the video below. We look at why you are attractive to the narcissist and why he (or she) is attractive to you. We also look at how to break the spell and move on, rather than stay “hooked in” to something that is clearly not good for you.
Watch the other videos on the Dating After Narcissistic Abuse Series:
#1 Dating Again After Narcissistic Abuse
#2 Who You are Seeking is Seeking You.
#3 Getting Relationship Ready
